By Mariel G. Calalo
THE PREMISE of this article lies on the principle that sometimes, loving a
person doesn't mean it has to be romantic and loving a person for the rest
of your life doesn't mean you have to end up marrying them. Can a man and
a woman just be friends? I'd say yes and they should be.
Hindi dahil kinaibigan ka, liligawan ka na. Not every guy who befriends
you has an ulterior motive. Get over yourself. Don't flatter yourself.
There is a reason why he befriended you, but don't automatically assume
that it's because he wants to be your so-called boyfriend. If this will be
the principle you'll follow every time someone asks you to be his friend,
you're gonna miss a great deal from the friendship.
Hindi dahil mabait sa iyo, nililigawan ka na. There are people who are
naturally sweet and kind. There are people who are innately good and no
matter how wicked you seem, they just find it so easy to be kind to you.
It doesn't mean he is courting you. Don't put yourself through unnecessary
stress trying to figure out if he's courting you or not. Because I think
if he is, you won't have to guess, you'll know and you'll be very certain
about it.
Hindi dahil he talks to you a lot, he loves you na. You don't befriend a
person if you absolutely abhor him, right? Chances are you make sense when
he talks to you, or you're probably very patient listening to him. The two
of you probably connect on some level but why does it always have to be
assumed to be romantic? Being two intelligent, mature human beings, you
need to accept that it's nice to share a cup of coffee over a stimulating
conversation, and that you don't have to automatically put romantic
connotation to it. Relieve yourself of the pressure. It's just coffee and
a shared interest.
Hindi dahil cute ang friend mo, crush/love mo na siya. This is the most
amusing thing that hit me lately. People always assume that because your
friend is cute or should I say, hot (because cute is a word you describe
your high school crush while hot is a word you use to describe a hunk),
"lakas amats mo na for repapips!" Let me just say this, at least from my
own personal experience, I'm just nearsighted, I haven't gone blind. I can
still appreciate God's creation! However, there will always be weird
things, crazy things, stupid things that will keep you, believe me, from
having a crush on him. First of all, you'd know his history with women,
enough to judge what's good for you. Second, don't you just hate it when a
guy who's absolutely always put together, who looks intelligent enough
pronounces the word country as "kawntri" and the word mango as "meynggo."
Call me crazy for judging a person just because he can't pronounce these
words right. I admit, I'm crazy.
Hindi dahil you hang out with each other most of the time, you'd end up
being boyfriend-girlfriend. Self-explanatory... There are a thousand, no
million different reasons why things don't always turn out that way. There
is no one proven formula. For all we know, the reason why he likes hanging
out with you is because he likes getting kikay tips from you. He probably
plans on being kikay himself and he needs a mentor.
A dinner with a guy friend does not necessarily mean equate to a date.
Especially if you're paying for your share no. Hello? Three things to
consider: the place, the topic and how the two of you actually planned to
meet. First, how it was planned. If it were a date expect that he would
ask you out at least three days before the actual date to give you some
lead time, to give you the notion that you are not just a filler on his
schedule. Second, the place. If it were a real date, the both of you would
want real food and a place where you could really talk things through.
Don't go out with a guy to a movie on Friday night if you're really
serious about him. Going to a movie is more like treating him like a
"filler" just because you had nothing to do on a Friday night so you might
as well go out. Topic. Ha! You wouldn't be talking about chikang artista,
chikang opisina or argue if the one girl's boobs are real or not. You
would be probably talking about sensible, quite personal stuff.
I conclude that platonic relationships are never complicated;
people just have tendencies to complicate them.
posted by The Chronicle @ 7:11 AM
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